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Welcome to On The Wet Coast, a blog & podcast about sexuality and ethical non-monogamy of every variety. We talk polyamory and swinging, monogamish and open relationships; from dirty, dirty sex to heartbreak. We share our personal experiences and philosophy, observations and theories, what works for us...and where we messed it right up.
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Dec 8, 2017

 Butt stuff!

It’s not just anal sex anymore, but a whole spectrum of ass play. What’s the appeal and the fascination? In our lifetime, it’s gone from being a secret perversion to borderline mainstream, referenced and discussed in pop culture both frankly and humorously. And some people feel increasingly pressured to make anal sex part of their repertoire without even knowing if they really want to, let alone knowing how to do it safely and pleasurably.

Today On the Wet Coast Flick Morrison & Kat Stark discuss the why’s and what’s of butt stuff.

Buy Kat's brand new book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Other books mentioned in the episode:
Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women - by Tristan Taormino
Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure - Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

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Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Yelling In Pasties music: Buddy Guy - Podington Bear

 

Nov 3, 2017

We on the Wet Coast are huge fans of sex toys. We have a large collection and use them regularly both in solo play and with our partners. We've tried a lot of different things and have learned through extensive trial and error what types of toys work best for us, since not every toy works for every body.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Kat Stark and Flick talk about sex toys. How to find the best toys for you and how to integrate toys into your sexytimes with others.

Buy Kat's brand new book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

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Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

 

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Yelling In Pasties music: Buddy Guy - Podington Bear

 

Oct 6, 2017

Getting things started is not always easy. Sending that first message on a dating site. Putting yourself out there with your romantic or sexy interest. Asking for that first kiss. Or even knowing how to flip that switch from social time to sexytime in a dating scenario - or play party.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick and Kat Stark are discussing Getting Things Started. We'll share a few tips and pointers of things that have worked for us in the past, and where things can go wrong.

Exciting news: Buy Kat's brand new book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

The rules for Strip High/Low are here on OnTheWetCoast.com

Carsie Blanton's Kickstarter The F'in Truth is here

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Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Yelling In Pasties music: Buddy Guy - Podington Bear

Sep 8, 2017

Like so many things in our lives, non-monogamous activity can be cyclical. There are times when we're out there dating a ton and boning all the sexy people, when we have the time and energy to enjoy the sexy connections we have made and will make.

Yet there are other times when we need to pull back for a myriad of reasons, when time or energy are at a premium, and we need to do less. It can be easy to feel discouraged during these times, if it's not how you usually operate, but it's important to take the time to take care of yourself when you need it. That way when the cycle comes 'round again, you'll be more likely to be ready to jump back on the express train to sexytown.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, we're discussing Pulling Back.

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Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Desire Promo music: Latin Rhythm - Sunsearcher

Aug 4, 2017

People whose identities don't conform to the norms within a community often feel isolated from that community. Figuring out how to fit in when you don't hew to the line of a group is an incredible challenge.

Bisexuals don't always feel at home in LGBTQ community and are often deliberately isolated from it.

Switches don't always feel at home in Kink community since many in BDSM appear to think you need to pick a side and stick with it.

Multiracial people don't feel entirely at home in either racial group.

Polyamorous people who have casual sex or different relationship structures can considered not to be truly polyamorous.

Finding a place - like geek community - where many of the circles of interest intersect allows many of us to feel at home.

Tonight On The Wet Coast, Flick and I (Kat Stark) are discussing Fitting In with Janet Rose. Find Janet on Twitter @SharpSweetBella or her blog SharpSweetBella.com

 

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Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea -http://www.premiumbeat.com/royalty_free_music/songs/a-naked-gun-bank-assault?auto

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere -http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Lee_Rosevere/Music_For_Podcasts_2/Lee_Rosevere_-_Music_for_Podcasts_2_-_10_Puzzle_Pieces

 

Jul 1, 2017

Not every relationship lasts forever--Whaaa?--turns out that happily ever after was kind of a fraudulent bill of goods we were sold as kids watching Disney movies. Relationships end or sometimes transition into subtly or entirely different forms.

Tonight On The Wet Coast, Flick and I (Kat Stark) are discussing Impermanence, Breakups, and Relationship Transitions.

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Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea -http://www.premiumbeat.com/royalty_free_music/songs/a-naked-gun-bank-assault?auto

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere -http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Lee_Rosevere/Music_For_Podcasts_2/Lee_Rosevere_-_Music_for_Podcasts_2_-_10_Puzzle_Pieces

 

May 26, 2017

Sexy Vacations can be one of the incredibly fun perks of a non-monogamous lifestyle. Going to different cities and countries is always amazing, but going to different places and having sex with people: that takes the amazing factor up to a whole new level. From hitting up locals via a dating site to visiting loves & sexyfriends in their cities to conferences to hotel takeovers to full-on swinger resorts, sexy holidays--or fuckations--run a huge fun spectrum.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, we've got Cooper Beckett from Life on the Swingset here to discuss sexy vacations and his newly released book Approaching the Swingularity that is set in a steamy vacation paradise.

Buy his book(s) at CooperSBeckett.com - code wetcoast at checkout to save 10%

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Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea -http://www.premiumbeat.com/royalty_free_music/songs/a-naked-gun-bank-assault?auto

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere -http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Lee_Rosevere/Music_For_Podcasts_2/Lee_Rosevere_-_Music_for_Podcasts_2_-_10_Puzzle_Pieces

 

Apr 21, 2017

In this episode of the On The Wet Coast podcast, we examine our experiences of public bisexuality through exhibitionism and how it relates to the male gaze, being good allies and supporting those more marginalized than us in the new political climate, and the pros and cons of doing the work of emotional labour in our complex array of relationships.

In part one of Female Relationships, Dawn Ardent and I discussed the complexities of female relationships in non-monogamy, shaking off the internalized competition we were socialized to associate with other women, and how honestly communicating fears and boundaries can help heal the breaks that insecurity and jealousy can create. We also hated on a couple mean girls from our past. In our defence, they were so mean! And made our junior high school experiences pretty hellish.

Check out our Cool Girl Bingo card (huge props to Dawn for creating this for us) here: https://assets.libsyn.com/secure/show/82614/cool_girl_bingo_card.jpg

Cool Girl Bingo Card

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Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

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Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea -http://www.premiumbeat.com/royalty_free_music/songs/a-naked-gun-bank-assault?auto

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere -http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Lee_Rosevere/Music_For_Podcasts_2/Lee_Rosevere_-_Music_for_Podcasts_2_-_10_Puzzle_Pieces

 

Apr 7, 2017

The relationships between women in non-monogamy are rarely discussed other than that bisexual babes are hot together. Women have been taught to compete & struggle against even our closest female friends so how can we connect when there are people we love openly together? And how does it work when we're into each other too?

The complicated dynamics that come from sharing partners as well as the grey area that is often present between metamour and partner (something Kat's come to call metaMORE) are part of we discuss on this episode of On The Wet Coast. We also chat about how essential honest communication is, and how the myth of the 'cool girl' messes all of us up. And since there was so much to talk about, there's even more in a second part of this discussion that will follow in the next episode.

Special guest Dawn Ardent joins Kat Stark

Check out our Cool Girl Bingo card (huge props to Dawn for creating this for us) here: https://assets.libsyn.com/secure/show/82614/cool_girl_bingo_card.jpg

Cool Girl Bingo Card

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @dawnardentgroks

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

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Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea -http://www.premiumbeat.com/royalty_free_music/songs/a-naked-gun-bank-assault?auto

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere -http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Lee_Rosevere/Music_For_Podcasts_2/Lee_Rosevere_-_Music_for_Podcasts_2_-_10_Puzzle_Pieces

 

 

Mar 10, 2017

One of the exceedingly fun features of non-monogamy can be group sex. Sexy, sweaty bodies writhing in a naked pile can be an outstanding experience, but it's not without complications. There are different things to take into consideration whether you're navigating a threesome, foursome, fivesome or six plus orgy.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast we're discussing Group Sex: Threesomes, Foursomes, Moresomes, and the amazing orgy.

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

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Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea -http://www.premiumbeat.com/royalty_free_music/songs/a-naked-gun-bank-assault?auto

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere -http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Lee_Rosevere/Music_For_Podcasts_2/Lee_Rosevere_-_Music_for_Podcasts_2_-_10_Puzzle_Pieces

 

Feb 20, 2017

One of the exceedingly fun features of non-monogamy can be group sex. Sexy, sweaty bodies writhing in a naked pile can be an outstanding experience, but it's not without complications. There are different things to take into consideration whether you're navigating a threesome, foursome, fivesome or six plus orgy.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast we're discussing Group Sex. What do you need to think about to have these sexy experiences go as smoothly as possible? What pitfalls can turn a group scene into a disaster? What risk-aware sex practices do you need to have in place? And no, we haven't forgotten the fun, what kinds of crazy shenanigans can you experience in group play?

Gin Titonic Recipe: Mix over ice

  • 2 oz Gin
  • 6-8 oz Tonic Water
  • Scoop Lemon or Lime or ?? Sorbet

 

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Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea -http://www.premiumbeat.com/royalty_free_music/songs/a-naked-gun-bank-assault?auto

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere -http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Lee_Rosevere/Music_For_Podcasts_2/Lee_Rosevere_-_Music_for_Podcasts_2_-_10_Puzzle_Pieces

Jan 27, 2017

All relationships require communication, but good communication is even more essential in ethically non-monogamous relationships where multiple people's needs and wants intersect. Each partnership has its own needs & rules for disclosure. How & when to make new information known can be one of the big challenges in non-monogamy, especially when saddled with baggage from monogamous upbringing.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Kat & Flick talk Disclosure

 

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Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea -http://www.premiumbeat.com/royalty_free_music/songs/a-naked-gun-bank-assault?auto

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere -http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Lee_Rosevere/Music_For_Podcasts_2/Lee_Rosevere_-_Music_for_Podcasts_2_-_10_Puzzle_Pieces

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