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Welcome to On The Wet Coast, a blog & podcast about sexuality and ethical non-monogamy of every variety. We talk polyamory and swinging, monogamish and open relationships; from dirty, dirty sex to heartbreak. We share our personal experiences and philosophy, observations and theories, what works for us...and where we messed it right up.
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Aug 11, 2018

Click-baity title aside, many people would like to figure out how to get more sex and better sex in their lives. It's not a priority for everyone, and isn't required to be, but for those who are looking to get more sex in their lives, it can be a struggle. We're here to tell you it doesn't have to be.

Reinterpreting what sex is can be a big and helpful start down the path to more sex. As well, reinterpreting what you're looking for in a sexual encounter can help you figure out how to get your needs met beyond any specific set of acts. It isn't always 'insert tab A in slot B' that we want from sex (though sometimes it is and that is also legitimate). Sometimes what we want is a sense of connection or physical intimacy that can be met in more ways than we think.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark discuss How to Have More (and Better) Sex.

Buy Kat's new book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

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Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

 

Jul 7, 2018

Ideally, when we’re meeting, dating, and sexing on people we want to be our best selves. We want to be feeling stable and settled and able to be present and focused for all the newness that might be coming our way. Unfortunately, circumstances are almost never ideal. Life constantly hits us with the unexpected--job loss, divorce, moving house, issues with kids, health issues, mental health issues, breakups--the list goes on and on.

Much of the time we need to figure out how to compartmentalize our other life issues so that we can open our hearts to new people and new experiences. That is way easier said than done, and not really that easy to say. In non-monogamy, we often have concurrent partners and heartbreak and it can be really tough to figure out how to grieve a relationship while maintaining or building another.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick and Kat are joined by Dirty Lola of Sex Ed A Go Go to discuss Dating During Upheaval. We’ll try to figure out how to maintain your mojo while your life is more like mo-NO. @DirtyLola

Buy Kat's new book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more 

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Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

 

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Jun 10, 2018

Nearly everyone we know claims to be bad at flirting, the two of us included, but somehow many of us are scoring dates and getting laid. How do we get over our own brains to send that first message or turn a chat into something sexy and sassy? And once we're in a sexy space, how do we wrap our heads around talking dirty.

There's an art to knowing when to push a conversation to a sexy place or leave an opening for someone else to do so and when to leave it respectfully platonic. And as it turns out, talking dirty can be a lot easier than you think.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick and Kat, plus special guests Wes and Raina, discuss the whens, wheres, and hows of Flirting, Sexting, and Dirty Talk.

*Please note that our Dirty Talk episode also contains some dirty audio. There's some audio distortion that crops up during episode that we were able to reduce but not fully remove.

Buy Kat's new book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

 

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Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

 

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Apr 18, 2018

Endless amounts of research has been done on the topic of love and relationships - generally focused on the heteronormative pair bonding that is the norm in our western culture. A few books such as Sex at Dawn and Mating in Captivity have been the go to tomes for the non-monogamous looking for science that backs up our choice of lifestyle.

Author Brenda Wiebe has written Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack my Love Life. She uses her skills as a researcher of sociology and anthropology to write a review of different relationship patterns throughout human history in combination with her own intimate journal entries that document her personal journey from marriage, through divorce, heartbreak, and into polyamory.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Kat Stark & Flick Morrison are joined by Brenda Wiebe to discuss Non-Monogamy and SCIENCE!

Get more of Brenda on her website NonMonogBlog and buy her book on Amazon. Follow her on Twitter @blwiebe69

Buy Kat's new book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

The other books mentioned in this Episode

The Myth of Monogamy

Marriage, A History 

What Love is: And What It Could Be

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

 

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Yelling In Pasties music: Buddy Guy - Podington Bear

 

Mar 9, 2018

Attraction is a mysterious thing.

There are physical and personality characteristics in people we're almost always attracted to: perhaps a certain body type or sense of humour. Other times it can be harder to nail down why a certain person hits all the yes buttons for you, or what makes us override our usual "dealbreakers". They could be completely different than what normally gets you going and if you lined up 5 similar people, you might not feel anything for any of the others.

Attraction can even be situational. You can find yourself interested in someone in a certain time and place when they wouldn't have the same appeal in others. Whether it's biology and pheromones, cultural influence, or personality, there are myriad factors at play in who we find attractive.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Kat Stark & Flick Morrison talk Attraction.

Buy Kat's new book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

 

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Yelling In Pasties music: Buddy Guy - Podington Bear

 

Feb 10, 2018

Many of us in non-monogamy land started out in monogamous relationships. Not necessarily because those were right for us, but because they were the default. We didn’t even know that there were other relationship options.

Once we start exploring ethical non-monogamy we discover countless variations on the big 3: SwInger, Open, Polyamory. Some people have strict definitions of what each of those relationship styles has to look like but almost everyone we’ve met in non-monogamy has their own take. Turns out, when you shed the societal expectations of what relationships are meant to look like, you can pick & choose what elements work best for you.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick & Kat are joined by Dr. Liz Powell, Psychologist & relationship coach, to discuss Building Your Ideal Relationship.

Get more Dr. Liz sexpositivepsych.com and on Twitter @sexpospsych.


Buy Kat's new book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

 

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Yelling In Pasties music: Buddy Guy - Podington Bear

 

Jan 13, 2018

Fantasizing is big part of most healthy sex lives. We fantasize about things we’d like to have done to us and/or what we’d like to do to others. We also fantasize about things that scare, horrify, or even kind of (or completely) disgust us. All these things are part of healthy sexual brain activity.

“Is this normal?” is a question about fantasies that comes up a lot in advice columns. The answer is yes, in that abnormality is completely normal when it comes to fantasy scenarios.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Kat & Flick talk Fantasies. How they can benefit your sex life, good ways to share them with your partner(s), and shaking off the shame of your less comfortable fantasies. We’ll share some of our own, and we’ll even share some that listeners have submitted to us.


Buy Kat's brand new book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

 

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

Yelling In Pasties music: Buddy Guy - Podington Bear

 

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