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Welcome to On The Wet Coast, a blog & podcast about sexuality and ethical non-monogamy of every variety. We talk polyamory and swinging, monogamish and open relationships; from dirty, dirty sex to heartbreak. We share our personal experiences and philosophy, observations and theories, what works for us...and where we messed it right up.
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May 12, 2019

Figuring out how to express our interest in someone can be one of the most challenging things in dating, especially if we find them really attractive, fun, or interesting. What do we say? What if they're not into it? Why is it so hard to express ourselves in a fun, clear, non-creepy way?

If what everyone we know reports about themselves is true, no-one is good at flirting. How the hell are any of us hooking up if this is a skill no-one has?

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Kat Stark & Flick Morrison are joined by Marcia Baczynski, master of the art of asking for what you want and dedicated flirt who is here to share her humour, wisdom, and creativity in how to navigate the world of flirting.

Find Marcia on Twitter @AskMarciaB & website https://www.askingforwhatyouwant.com//

 

The audiobook version of Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is now available on Audible and Itunes. 

Buy Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more 

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Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

 

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

 

Apr 14, 2019

Since the passage of FOSTA/SESTA in the US, sexual content on the internet has been progressively quashed, starting with shutting down places sex workers could advertise but flowing forward until Tumblr was all but shuttered when they were no longer allowed to have sexual content.

Various agencies drop the scare words ‘sex trafficking’ and the changes are made under the guise of protecting the vulnerable but has had the opposite effect by forcing many sex workers onto the streets and taking away the resources they used to have to vett and screen clients.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark chat with Carrie Hill, a sex worker activist and professional dominant (among many other things) who is here to talk to us about Why Sex Work Matters and how the rules and restrictions around sex work will affect your life more and more.

Find Carrie on Twitter @empoweringsex & their website https://empoweringsexuality.ch/

Dominatrix on Trial: Bedford vs Canada - Terri Jean Bedford - Buy on Amazon.ca

Peg The Patriarchy - Luna Matatas - Etsy Shop

The audiobook version of Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is now available on Audible and Itunes. 

Buy Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more 

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

 

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

 

Mar 17, 2019

Our desire for sexual experiences--both solo and with a partner or partners--fluctuates for countless reasons. Stress, fatigue, hormones, depression, body image, and connectivity are just a few of the things that can affect a person’s libido.

Since we live in such a sex negative society talking about negative impacts on libido are considered frivolous since sexuality isn’t considered to be a worthwhile measure of quality of life. It’s also not stressed that we connect and partner with people who share similar libidos to ours since sexual compatibility is a shallow and selfish measure of relationship quality.

Today On The Wet Coast, Kat Stark & Flick Morrison talk about our Libidos, figuring out how they work, working with others to get on the same page desire-wise (or at least same chapter), managing our relationships when our libidos aren’t where we want them to be, and tips to find a way back to our sexy selves.

Get Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are on Amazon

The audiobook version of Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is now available on Audible and Itunes. 

Buy Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more 

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

 

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

 

Feb 9, 2019

If you're lucky, the place where you're living has a thriving sex -positive community and it takes little effort to find and take part in events such as meet-ups, workshops, and conventions. Most likely, that's not the case and either there isn't much of a community or the community that is there doesn't align with your interests, ethics, or outlook.

Sometimes, you've got to step forward and spearhead building that community yourself. It's a bit of a terrifying concept, but it can be done. Today On The Wet Coast, we talk with two people who are doing just that. They've founded the Vancouver Sex Positive Society and are ramping up for the 3rd Annual Converge Con, a conference originated with a desire to build sex positive communities, and start a dialogue around sexuality, relationships, and activism.

Find more on Twitter @VancouverSPS and @ConvergeTweets

Find the bursary application here

The audiobook version of Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is now available on Audible and Itunes. 

Buy Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more 

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

 

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

 

Jan 13, 2019

Consent is a topic that has been an essential part of the non-monogamy experience, though not everyone is great at asking for or respecting it, and some feel like we talk about enthusiastic consent too much. In monogamous dating, it has only recently become a more nuanced discussion than the No Means No message that most of us were taught. After all, talking about our wants and boundaries would kill the mood and ruin the magic flow that is supposed to happen in love scenes.

With the explosion of the MeToo movement that began with Tarana Burke in 2006 and hit the popular media in 2017, consent is being discussed more widely than ever before. What is consent? How do we effectively set boundaries and respect the boundaries of others? Can consent ever be Sexy, as some people propose? On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick and I are joined by Erin Tillman, author of the Consent Guidebook: A Practical Approach to Consensual, Respectful, and Enthusiastic Interactions, to talk about, you guessed it, Consent.

Find Erin at thedatingadvicegirl.com and @DatingAdviceGrl

The audiobook version of Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut is now available on Audible and Itunes.

Check out Bex Caputo's great Yes/No/Maybe list 

 

Buy Kat's book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut at Amazon.com

Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK 

Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts, toy reviews, and more 

Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/

Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

Check out all the other great podcasts on the Swingset.fm network at Swingset.fm

 

Music in this episode: Theme music - A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music - Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

 

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